A transgender dad has revealed his joy as he and his partner prepare to welcome their first biological child.
Oregon couple Trystan Reese and Biff Chaplow told parenting podcast The Longest Shortest Time that they’re expecting a baby boy next month after suffering a miscarriage last year, when trans man Trystan became pregnant for the first time.
“You’re supposed to, like, complain about your ankles or whatever. But I’ve been having a blast being pregnant,” he said of the pregnancy.
“Feeling the movements has been so cool. The kids every night will read stories to my belly. It’s just been really awesome.”
After the miscarriage, Trystan said he wanted to wait a year before trying to conceive again, but taking into account the complexity of restarting and stopping Trystan’s testosterone, they started trying again straight away.
The couple said they worried they’d missed their chance but six months later, Trystan woke up feeling sick and discovered the good news after taking a pregnancy test.
Ahead of their six-week ultrasound, the dads called ahead to their ob-gyn’s office to explain their pregnancy, a precaution Trystan explained was based on his past experiences as a transgender man.
“I can feel someone looking at my face and searching for the remnants of womanhood,” he said.
“They kind of squint their eyes a little bit and I can tell they’re trying to take away my beard, they’re trying to de-transition me in their heads.”
But, happily, he found “there just hasn’t been an ounce of transphobia from anyone I have come in contact with.”
“Every person wouldn’t even bat an eye that there was a dude with a beard claiming to be pregnant who is here to get bloodwork done – and I have been trans long enough to know that doesn’t come magically,” he said.