Her Son Came Out, So This Mum Called A Gay Bar For Advice. Here’s What Happened

Coming out as gay can be an emotional and often nerve-wracking experience for LGBTI people.

When a gay guy in Mississippi came out to his mother recently, she didn’t want to react in a way that would hurt him.


But without any LGBTI people to turn to for advice and guidance, she decided to call up her local gay bar – Sipps Bar in Gulfport – to get some advice on what she should say to her son.

Kara Cowley, a bartender at the venue, answered the mum’s call and posted the sweet conversation she had with the woman to her Facebook page.

Read it below:

Me: Good evening. Thank you for calling Sipps!

Lady on phone: Is this a gay bar?

Me: Well, we are an everybody bar, but yes mostly gay.

Lady: Can I ask you a…?

Me: Sure.

Lady: Are you gay?


Lady: What was the one thing you wanted from your parents when you came out?

Me: Umm…


Lady: My son just came out to me and I don’t want to say anything that may mess him up in the head.

Me: Well, I think that you should just make sure he knows that you love and accept… Wait, do you accept it?

Lady: Well umm, yes, if that’s what he wants.

Me: You should definitely let him know that you love and accept him! I think everything will be OK from there!

Lady: OK, well, thank you.

Me: You are very welcome and good luck!

Kara was inundated with support for her handling of the conversation on her Facebook page, with some commenters sharing their own stories.

“This is called progress. When a mother doesn’t know how to react, she asks for advice,” one person wrote.

“That isn’t just good motherhood, that is a sign that the fight for equality is only becoming closer and closer to being over. Thank you, stranger, for reaching out for help when you weren’t sure what to say or do.”

Another said: “Before my Bubba came out, I had known since we were kids he was gay.

“I didn’t care because that was who he was. I’m so thankful to see someone called for advice and you handled it beautifully!”