For years I enjoyed a love-hate relationship with my vulva. It has a large mound and also features voluptuous lips. The amount of hair varies from very bald to el naturale depending on my energy level. The reaction from some sexual partners to a prominent vulva perhaps causes the hate part of the equation. Lesbians seem scared of it. Mine is not small, tucked away or quiet. Apparently, vulvas should now be all of those things. This causes me great embarrassment. I always worry about what new partners will think.
I don’t understand the recent requirement of a ‘perfect’ vulva. More and more women undergo labiaplasty to reduce the size of their labia (lips) – WTF! Have we actually criticised each other so much that we are sending our sapphic sisters under the knife? I say HECK NO!!
We are lesbians. Many of us pride ourselves on our difference. We are often inclined to feminist views and we generally love the vagina. So, why are we so critical of what is between our legs and the legs of the people we are sleeping with? Let us explore the folds and creases of a beautiful, larger than life vulva just the same as a small, tight one? Shouldn’t we want to rummage through a full vulva of hair to find what’s underneath, just the same as a bald one? Shouldn’t we be celebrating the diversity of our vulvas and embracing our differences? How boring would it be if we were all the same?
Today I declare — My vulva is loud and out there and I like it that way. My relationship with my vulva, and any others that I may lay my hands on (*wink*), will now be a plain as day ‘love’ relationship – no hate. The next time someone shies away from my vulva, it is simple. They don’t deserve it, and they don’t deserve me.
The Vulva-lution starts here
I am starting a vulva-lution! Lesbians assemble and bring your straight sisters also.
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