Pop Psychology

Pop psychology might better be described as psychobabble, because the uninformed teachings of self-taught ‘experts’ only serve to limit our human potential. Do you have an intellect, or just the box it came in? Let’s stop limiting ourselves and others. I often hear people artistic friends state that creativity trumps intelligence. But are we compelled …

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rainbow flags at pride parade

I have noticed an interesting phenomenon amongst people. In my observation, when one group of people begins to gain more freedom and privilege, they step on the groups they perceive as just below them. I’ve seen migrants do it to refugees, the poor-turned-financially-secure do it to the strugglers, and even people in my own community …

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A toxic workplace culture is bad for all employees, but can be a particular burden on LGBTIQ employees, already stigmatised by their sexuality or identity, writes RJ Miles. I wish workplace mental health initiatives were more about helping people to understand the psychology of burnout and less about getting people to do yoga. The benefits …

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One of the most salient fears of marriage equality opponents was that success for the “yes” campaign would lead to a radical age-inappropriate sex education curriculum. There were wild claims made — students asked to role-play same-sex relationships, boys encouraged to wear dresses, sex toys in primary school health classes… (All since quietly filed under …

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From self-described “boy body” to All About That Bass and back again, RJ Miles recounts to QN Magazine her experience with body shaming. A person’s self-image is low-hanging fruit, ripe for plucking and an easy target for those who feed their own insecurity by putting down others. Most of my adult life I’ve had the …

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donor conception same-sex parents

I wrote a children’s book about donor conception in lesbian families. It was well-received other than a single persistent comment. “This is too much information for children.” Making the decision to conceive a child using a donor is significant. Some people choose known donors who have a role in their child’s life. Other people, including …

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gender stereotyping

When I was pregnant with my son, friends and acquaintances concluded we knew the sex of our baby. My Facebook posts of baby clothing I bought before the birth probably contributed to that. Pink cat socks? Must be a girl! A toddler soccer kit? You didn’t tell me you were having a boy? Actually, we …

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Brisbane author and mum rj miles

The first time I told an acquaintance, “My wife and I are expecting our first baby in December,” their response was, “How?” Luckily, I love talking about how babies are made, especially ours. The path we walked (due to my endometriosis) was initiated by in-vitro fertilisation – or IVF. Although many people think of this …

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The leaking of parts of the Ruddock religious freedom review sparked public outrage around the ability of religious schools to discriminate based on sexual orientation, gender identity or relationship status. During the Wentworth by election, Prime Minister Scott Morrison promised to protect LGBTIQ students, but the principals of 34 religious schools then sent a letter …

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