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Paul Martin

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Seeing a psychologist could change your life – here’s why

Seeing a psychologist could be one of the most life-changing things you ever do for yourself. But it’s hard to know if it’s right for you if you aren’t sure how it works. So, grab a coffee and slip into your most comfortable lemon-scented canary yellow rubber G-string worn backwards. Now, let’s do a bit …

resilience

Resilience: bouncing back from adversity

Resilience is the ability to function well in the face of adversity and bounce back. Similar to a drag queen losing a lip-sync-for-your-life but still laughing as she rips her tucking tape off. Resilience is an important life skill and Paul Martin has strategies to help you build yours. The resilience mythbuster Let’s dismiss the …

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New Year’s Resolutions with Paul Martin

How many times have you made a New Year’s resolution such as losing weight, reading more, or doing interpretive dances to “Born This Way” in the work lunch room each day, only for it to only last a month or so before you give up yet again? You are not alone, this it the experience …

A lesbian couple give each other the cold shoulder in a stock photo about resentment.

Are you and your partner struggling with resentment? Address it now

Would you rather do a liturgical dance in a burnt apricot taffeta evening gown with puff sleeves in front of your homophobic Uncle after he’s had 17 stubbies on Xmas day than have sex with your partner? Are you distancing yourself from people you used to be close to? If so, you may have an …

Poor mental health

Act on these warning signs of poor mental health

Mental health is similar to physical health in some ways. When you are mentally healthy you feel an overall sense of well-being. That enables you to enjoy a full and satisfying life and reach your potential as a person. But poor mental health can get in the way of enjoying relationships and work. It makes …

Body Image

Dont allow Body Image issues to ruin your sex life

Ideally, sex should be a blissful flow state accompanied by sounds like someone eating jelly with their mouth open with an occasional schlupping noise. There can be a lot going on when we have sex. Sadly, there are many barriers to good sex. One of them is body image. How we feel about our bodies. …

sex in relationships

Sex in Relationships: how to keep the spark alive

Sex in relationships often starts with an animalistic erotic intensity far beyond anything ever captured on film. (Sorry, webcammers.) This usually shifts to a less frequent and intense exchange of bodily fluids. Paul Martin says relationships require time and effort. This can be lost in the exhausting reality of day-to-day life. Paul Martin is the …

sex

Ins and outs of sex: out with negativity, in with pleasure

Sex can prove one of the most wonderfully pleasurable, exciting, erotic, fun, loving, expansive and creative parts of what makes us human. Our communities more than others allow the freedom to express ourselves sexually in a way that works for us individually. We are not as constrained as some by the expectations of society. Sex …

Neurodiversity

Neurodiversity: something many people have without knowing!

Neurodiversity may sound like the name of a 1980’s kink club, but it is something very real that many people have without knowing! Paul Martin is the Senior Psychologist at the Centre for Human Potential. Neurodiversity includes things like ADHD and Autism Spectrum. A large number of human brains are wired differently. The large proportion of …

stress

How to deal with Stress – now almost as endemic as COVID

Life is often stressful. But the last two years have proved particularly challenging. A few short years ago, we perceived Donald Trump and the drag race villain edit as our biggest problems. But then came the pandemic. Now, stress is almost, if not, as endemic as COVID. Paul Martin is the Senior Psychologist at the …

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