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Paul Martin

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  • FAREWELL AND GOOD LUCK PAUL MARTIN

    From the Editor:It was a sad moment a few weeks back when our long time columnist and friend Paul Ma...

  • WHAT IS HOLDING YOU BACK?

     The grey stuff between your ears made up of mainly fat and water is one of the most powerful c...

  • Do Open Relationships Work?

    Luckily for us, we don’t have to be imprisoned by the Super AMart suburban belief systems our pare...

  • Online dating

    Online dating is one way of meeting new friends, getting your end wet, chatting, and meeting Mr. or ...

  • SEX IN A RELATIONSHIP

    Many gay and lesbian couples over the years have come to our practice years with concerns about thei...

  • Gender varies but is not a disorder

     Over the last 25 years, I have heard many stories about the negative experiences transgender a...

  • “It’s ok to call you a fa**ot now in Queensland.”

     There are many mental health implications of the LNP Government’s removal of our equal right...

  • Staying Positive

    At times when everything can feel so dark and hopeless, it can be helpful to have some strategies we...

  • Oppositional Sexism

    One of the issues we often see at Centre for Human Potential is how LGBTI people are negatively impa...

  • Why See a Gay or Lesbian Psychologist?

    People see psychologists for all sorts of reasons, such as sleep issues, chronic pain, overcoming fe...

  • THE MENTAL STATE OF MARRIAGE

    People have been asking me why we have started a group called Psychologists for Marriage Equality an...

  • GENDER ROLES IN GAY RELATIONSHIPS

    Gays and Lesbians are often stereotyped as being free of the expectations of what it means to be a f...

  • WHY MARGARET COURT'S COMMENTS MATTER

    As a psychologist with over 25 years experience working with gay and lesbian clients and being an ex...

  • INTERSEX: THE NEGLECTED

    Our communities rarely talk about or even understand intersex which is a part of our ‘LGBTI&rs...

  • DATING MARRIED PEOPLE

    For some people, bum fun with someone who is married can be a potent sexual fantasy. Whilst having s...

  • NEW YEARS REFLECTIONS

    It is quite amazing what you can achieve when you use the act of reflection and I’m not talkin...

  • MERRY CHRISTMAS- NOW- DEALING WITH THE FAMILY

     DEALING WITH THE FAMILY Christmas Carols such as “Joy to the World” ...

  • PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE??

      The words passive aggressive conjure up images of a bitchy bottom in shiny leather with ...

  • MYTHS OF THE ORIGINS OF SAME SEX ATTRACTION

      A lot of time and effort has gone into research and theorising about what causes someone to ...

  • DATING ONLINE

      The online world of dating is a cornucopia of pulsating possibilities where reproductive org...

  • ALL ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH

      What is Mental Health Mental health is similar to physical health in some ways.  When ...

  • COMING OUT LATE

    Over the years in our LGBTI specialist practice we’ve seen many men, women and gender diverse clie...

  • WILL THE REAL JULIA PLEASE STAND UP

    It was an honour to be part of a small contingent of equality advocates that met with Prime Minister...

  • OVERCOMING FAILURE

    The best news I’ve heard in a long time is that one of the world’s most esteemed corpora...

  • GAYS & GOD... A MATCH MADE IN HEAVEN

    There has been a recent explosion in the interest around Christianity in the LGBTI world in Brisbane...

  • DITCH THE BITCH!

    Many LGBTI people expect to come out and be warmly embraced by an unconditionally loving, accepting ...

  • THE UPS AND DOWNS OF PICKING UP AT THE GAY BAR

    Picking up a one night shag or meeting new people at a club can be a fun night of hunting, followed ...

  • DOES GAY MARRIAGE AFFECT OUR HEALTH?

    I recently spent a couple of days in Parliament House Canberra speaking to MP’s about same sex...

  • TRANS GAY STRUGGLES

     It never ceases to amaze me, the enormous courage and strength that so many of our transgender...

  • GAY AT WORK

    In an ideal world the workplace is somewhere that you can be as open about your sexual orientation, ...

  • COMMUNITY... WHY BOTHER?

    For many people, the word community is as inspiring as the aged flaccid elastic on a pair of disturb...

  • THINKING POSITIVE WITH HIV

    The history of HIV/AIDS is filled with holocaust-like images of death, wasting bodies and unrelentin...

  • CAMP!

    One of the coolest things about being gay is that we don't have to conform to the stereotypes of bei...

  • EXODUS APP

    I was delighted to hear that Exodus International, who say they offer 'Freedom from Homosexuality,' ...

  • MARRIED SUBJUGATION

    Unless you’re bi, most people in our communities would rather suckle on the diseased nipple of...

  • COMING OUT TO PARENTS

    Fish have it easy, the girls gently ooze out a slimy blob of miniature eggs and the guys drift past ...

  • GENDER DIVERSITY

    As much as we often like to consider ourselves one big happy LGBTI accepting community, the reality ...

  • RECOVERING FROM THE FLOOD

    What a surreal and for many distressing experience we’ve all just had! I have personally vowed...

  • MULTI-COLOURED G-STRINGS

    So your new year’s resolution is to learn how to make your very own crochet multi-coloured g-s...

  • CREATIVE GOAL SETTING

    This is the time of year many of us start reflecting on the year gone and start working on goals for...

  • FAMILY CHRISTMAS

    As a specialist LGBTI counselling service we are very busy around this time of year. For so many in ...

  • MATESHIP

    So often romantic relationships are placed at a much higher level of importance than friendshipsor a...

  • DISCLOSING HIV

    For many HIV positive people, the idea of disclosing their status is as attractive as the feeling yo...

  • FEELING LONELY?

    One of the first things that parents can say to their son or daughter coming out is: “We don&r...

  • SUICIDE

    There is a lot of focus in the media at the moment about gay suicides as a result of bullying. It&rs...

  • WHAT ABOUT THE EX-GAYS?

    In my conflicted early 20’s I was a leader in what is called an ‘Ex-gay Ministry.’...

  • PERSONALITY DIFFERENCES IN RELATIONSHIPS

    Personality is a central part of who we are as individuals. One important part of our personality is...

  • PHYSICAL HEALTH AND COMING OUT

    Over many years of counselling same sex attracted clients, we’ve noticed that for some, there ...

  • GETTING GOOD SLEEP

    If you are going through stress, feeling down, have a lot on your mind or find yourself in bed next ...

  • IMPORTANCE OF RELATIONSHIPS

    It’s incredible how much psychological damage can result from keeping your sexuality secret an...

  • GOOD GRIEF

    Grieving sucks and at times can be more overwhelming than waking up after a big night and finding so...

  • Authentic Diversity

    By Paul Martin I was lucky enough for a brief moment in time to experience the true power of divers...

  • Q Psychology - Expressing Emotion

    By Paul Martin Exegative emotions can accumulate like the putrescent paste of penis cheese on a hot...


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